Alright, let’s talk about something we all know but don’t always like to admit—not every friendship is built to last. And that’s okay. A close friend actually sent me this amazing interview with Oprah and Gayle because we love talking about these kinds of things. We’ve both dealt with jealous friends and even toxic relationships with family members, so this topic really hit home.
In the interview, Oprah and Gayle dropped some serious truth bombs about how to spot jealousy in friendships—stuff that had me nodding along and thinking, “Yes, exactly! One thing Oprah said really hit me:
If there’s even a hint of jealousy, real friendship can’t exist.
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Let that sink in for a second. If you’ve ever felt those little warning signs in a friendship, you know what she means. Oprah called them “whispers,” and we’ve all felt them at some point, right? That gut feeling when something just doesn’t feel right.
Here’s the video if you haven’t seen it yet—it’s a must-watch:
Why True Friends Matter More Than Ever
As moms, we’ve already got enough on our plates. Between raising kids, keeping up with work, and trying to sneak in a little self-care (ha, what’s that?), we don’t need friendships that drain us.
We need people who fill our cup, who are genuinely happy for us, who show up when we need them—even if we haven’t showered in two days and are drowning in laundry.
And here’s the thing: starting fresh in the new year is the perfect excuse to take a closer look at your circle. Are your friendships lifting you up? Or are they leaving you second-guessing yourself?
How to Spot Jealousy in a Friend
If you’re wondering whether a friend might be more frenemy than BFF, here are a few signs to look out for:
1. The “Compliment” That Doesn’t Feel Like One
You know the ones. “Must be nice to be able to stay at home—my husband would never go for that,” or “Wow, you’re so lucky to have time to work out.” It’s like they’re saying something nice but also…not.
2. They Downplay Your Wins
When something amazing happens in your life, they don’t celebrate with you. Instead, they either ignore it or brush it off like it’s no big deal.
3. Everything’s a Competition
You share something exciting, and instead of being happy for you, they hit you with their own “better” story or try to one-up you.
4. They Copy You
This one’s easy to miss. A jealous friend might mimic your style or ideas, but instead of it being flattering, they don’t give you credit or even worse, claim it as their own.
5. They Exclude You
Maybe they stop inviting you to things or keep you out of the loop on purpose. It stings, doesn’t it?
6. They Make You Question Yourself
They drop little comments that make you second-guess your choices, your confidence, or even your goals.
Sound familiar? If so, it might be time to take a step back and reevaluate that friendship.
What Real Friends Look Like
Here’s the good news. The right friendships can uplift you, support you, and inspire you to be your best self. Here’s what to look for in your circle this year:
They genuinely celebrate your wins and comfort you during tough times.
They make you feel safe, supported, and understood.
They see and accept you without judgement.
They speak truthfully and lovingly, even during tough times.
That’s what we all deserve, especially as moms.
My 2025 Friendship Resolution
This year, I’m taking Oprah’s advice and listening to those whispers. If something feels off, even if I can’t quite explain it or put my finger on it, I’m not ignoring it. And instead of holding onto friendships (family included) out of guilt or habit, I’m making space for the relationships that truly matter.
Because here’s the thing, life is too short, and motherhood is too hard, to surround ourselves with people who don’t have our backs.
So, if you’re feeling those whispers, Mama, it’s okay to step away. Focus on the friendships that make you feel good, the ones that leave you better, not confused and bitter.
Let’s make 2025 the year of stronger, healthier, and more uplifting friendships. You in?
Let’s chat—have you ever dealt with a jealous friend? How did you handle it? Drop a comment below; I’d love to hear your story. 💛
